Parent Education Night November 5th, 2020 With Sierra Daniels, School Counselor And Todd Armstrong, SEL Consultant
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt
Self-Concept Three key elements Self-image: The view you ● have of yourself "The individual's belief about himself or herself, including the Self-esteem: How much ● person's attributes and who value you place on yourself and what the self is.” To be aware of oneself is to have a Ideal-self: What you wish concept of oneself. ● you were really like Roy Baumeister, Social Psychologist, Florida State University
Self-Esteem The extent to which we like, accept or approve of ourselves, or how much we value ourselves. Self-esteem always involves a degree of evaluation. High Self-Esteem Low Self-Esteem Confidence in our own Lack of confidence ● ● abilities Want to be/look like ● Self-acceptance someone else ● Not worrying about what Always worrying what ● ● others think others might think Optimism Pessimism ● ●
Low Self-Esteem the way th ay it it is is... .. Poor Self-image = limited self- awareness; students really don’t know who they are Unclear Ideal Self = manipulated view of ideal self or “who they should be” as defined by their perception of other students, media promoted stereotypes, and how they are defined by summative assessments like tests, grades and praise Poor Self-esteem – based on lack of information and misinformation about themselves, they are vulnerable to outside manipulation. This is compounded if they lack self-regulation, and therefore are vulnerable to stress, anxiety and depression
Here’s a strategy for how to build ild se self lf-esteem It comes down to three basic questions: What, How, Why
Get specific Build Self-Image “the WHAT” - Who am I? What am I feeling? What am I thinking? ● self-concept Define Ideal Self “The WHY” - Who do I want to be? What do I want to contribute? ● Action to develop Self-Esteem ● “The HOW ” - Supportive relationships, Growth Mindset, Intrinsic Motivation, Optimism, decision making & emotional regulation
The challenges a student faces can be like climbing Mt. Everest... ...with SEL & Character, a student builds self- concept to “knock it down to size”
The challenges a student faces can be like climbing Mt. Everest... WHAT : Self-Image - Self-Awareness (SEL) Values, interests, strengths, & ● personality Emotions - “Snap Judgments” ● Triggers and patterns ●
WHY : Ideal Self - Self-Direction & Relationships Purpose - “To BE Lists,” “Point A to BE” ● Supportive relationships - empathy and ● kindness, “Less Steep Hills,” “Give > Get,” “Helpful Helping”
The challenges a student faces can be like climbing Mt. Everest... HOW - Self-Esteem Decisions Growth Mindset - normalizing failure, ● obstacles as opportunities, effort as path to mastery Intrinsic Motivation - “Can, Care, Will” ● Optimism - “TIE” Temporary, Isolated, ● Effort” Self-Management “Name it, to Tame it,” ● Thoughts, Feelings and Action ● Mindfulness & breathing ●
SEL and character are the foundation for building a positive Self- Concept: Self-Image, Self-Esteem and Ideal Self Students are learning these skills with CharacterStrong These are the skills to cut the mountain down to size!
Growth Mindset and PBIS Both challenge our thoughts , behaviors , and actions .
Break Out Rooms 01 02 Click on the breakout group! Sweet Salty What types flavors do PBIS Home Matrix Name to Tame & & you prefer? Breakout Link Breakout Link 03 04 To try these activities, send an email to Spicy Sour Sierra or Todd Hold On and Let Go To Be Lists & & Breakout Link Breakout Link
THANKS! In today’s rush, we all think too much — seek too much — want too much — and forget about the joy of just being. Upcoming Dates: ■ Veteran’s Day 11/11/2020 (no school) Eckhart Tolle ■ Virtual Assembly 11/18/2020 8:15-8:45am ■ Principal’s Meetup 11/19/2020 4 -5pm ■ Virtual Paint Night 12/10/2020 4-5pm Roy Cloud Website https://www.rcsdk8.net/roycloud Sierra Daniels, School Counselor sdaniels@rcsdk8.net (650)439-0021 Todd Armstrong, SEL Consultant todd@eqvehicle.org (650)-743-5573
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