October is Bullying Prevention Month Hello! It’s your friendly 7th grade counselor, Ms. Paulhamus. October is bullying prevention month. Today we are going to take some time to learn about how we can interrupt bullying at Einstein.
What do you think the following words mean? -Bullying -Rude -Mean What do these words mean? How are they different from one another? First, we need to make sure we all have the same understanding of what bullying is. Take a look at these 3 words; bullying, rude and mean. What do you think these words mean? How are they different from one another? Take one minute to think and 3 minutes to write down your ideas about the definitions of bullying, rude and mean. (4 minutes) Now turn and talk to your neighbor and share what you wrote. (2 minutes)
bullying Bullying is unwanted , aggressive behavior that involves a real or perceived power imbalance (physical, intellectual, emotional). The behavior is repeated even when you tell the person to stop or show that you’re upset. Bullying includes actions such as making threats, harassment, spreading rumors, intimidation, attacking someone physically or verbally, and leaving someone out from a group on purpose. The intent of bullying is to hurt someone or make them feel less than. Rude When someone says or does something UNintentionally hurtful, and they do it once , that’s RUDE. Mean When someone says or does something intentionally hurtful, and they do it once , that’s MEAN. Now let’s look at my definitions of bullying, rude and mean. How does this definition compare to the definition you came up with? Take a minute to copy down a few key words to make your definition more closely match what is on the board. (45, 30, 15 seconds)
Card sort! Now that we have a better understanding of the definition of bullying, rude and mean behavior we’re going to apply our newfound knowledge in an activity! In your table groups (3-4 students) you will be given 16 scenarios. Some of these scenarios are examples of bullying, some are examples of rude behavior and some are examples of mean behavior. Use the definitions in front of you to identify the behavior in each scenario. As you identify each scenario, sort them into bullying, rude and mean piles. (10-15 minutes?)
-Someone called you fat. -A classmate called you stupid when you got the answer wrong. -Your friend called you weak for getting upset... -During group work your partner said your idea was dumb. -When you complimented your friend on his clothes... -You joined a group chat on Snap... - Your friend identifies as a girl (last year they identified as a boy) and wants to be called Brenda. When the teacher calls on her, another classmate says, “I thought you were a boy.” Now let’s check our work. Here are the mean scenarios.
-The friend sitting next to you in the cafeteria said your lunch looks lame... -You’re having a serious conversation with a friend… -Someone lets the door shut in your face… -A classmate comes up behind you during independent work time, touches your hair... -Your friend identifies as a girl (last year they identified as a boy... These are the rude scenarios Did anyone notice that the scenario about Brenda is in both the mean and rude groups? That’s because sometimes it’s tough to know if someone’s being intentionally mean or if they really are unaware that their behavior is hurting you. The only real way to figure this out is to calmly tell them how their words made you feel and ask why they said what they did.
-Two students are playing ping pong... -For the fourth time three friends cancel weekend plans with you... -Two white kids are constantly singing rap songs and using the n word… -It’s seat change time again in science... -Someone starts messaging you using Snap. You’re not sure who it is... These are the bullying scenarios. There are lots of behaviors that fall under the category of bullying, like racial and sexual harassment and physical or verbal intimidation. All are hurtful, serious and some are against the law.
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Bullying hurts Research shows the effects of bullying include... Drop in Academic performance/grades Increase in Mental health and behavior challenges like anxiety and depression Increase in negative Physical symptoms (headache, stomach ache, sleep issues) Negative effect on relationships with friends and family More likely to consider and attempt suicide 36% of people bullied report to an adult Even though most bystanders don’t like to watch bullying, less than 20% try to stop it. We’ve all been told many times how horrible bullying can make people feel, how painful the impact can be. And we’ve all been told that the best ways to interrupt bullying are to tell an adult or interrupt the actual bully. But only 36% of people who are bullied report it to an adult. And as for bystanders...you saw the Burger King video at the beginning of this presentation--only 12% of the people who saw the kid being bullied intervened. In general, less than 20% of bystanders try to stop bullying when they see it. So why don’t people report? (Turn and talk to your neighbor and come up with some ideas of why folks don’t report.)
Why it’s hard to report... Who’d Help me? The bully will focus on me. I’ll be the one who gets in trouble. It’s not my business. It will just make things worse. I don’t know them. I’m not worth it. No one will care. No one will believe me. my family would get mad or worry more. I’m not a snitch! I can handle it, i need to deal with it on my own. There are lots of reasons why… If I am bullied I may not report it because… (left column) If I am a bystander, I may not report it or intervene because…(right column)
How can i interrupt bullying at einstein? Despite all these reasons that make it hard to report, there are things that we can and MUST do to interrupt bullying at Einstein. Research shows that when we do intervene and interrupt bullying, More than half of bullying situations (57%) stop.
How to report... -Anonymously or in person -to any adult ( counselors, teachers, coaches, security, principals, parents, behavior techs and paras ) -with the following information: Who, when, where, for how long What’s happening What’s been tried already So let’s talk about HOW we can interrupt bullying through reporting. You can make a report in person, by email or phone call. When you report you can ask that your identity be kept confidential. Report the bullying behavior to any adult you trust! However you decide to report, please provide as much information as possible: who is doing the bullying, who is being bullied, where is it happening, how long has it been going on, what is the bullying behavior, and what if anything has been tried already.
How to act with kindness... You can also interrupt bullying by acting with kindness. You can be kind anytime, and you can be kind to anyone. But if you really want to interrupt bullying be kind to someone you see being bullied. VIDEO Your kind words and kind acts matter and make a difference!! And it can be something as small as a compliment, or an invitation to sit together at lunch. Or it can be something big like telling the person bullying to stop what they’re doing or ask the person being bullied if they want to take a walk with you (to get them out of the situation). Kindness has an impact!!
Students who have been bullied reported the following bystander strategies that made things better: [A bystander] spent time with me (54%), talked to me (51%), helped me get away (49%), called me (47%), gave me advice (46%), helped me tell (44%), distracted me (43%), listened to me (41%), told an adult (35%), confronted the bully (29%), asked the bully to stop Not sure what you can do as a bystander? (read info above) Your kindness has an impact.
Final reflection... We’ve reached the end of our time together. Please complete the questions on the reflection sheet. Once you are done please put your paper in the front of your binder. Please report, be kind and thank you for participating...
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