Do they need a phone NOW? External Internal Responsible - PowerPoint PPT Presentation

T ECH Addiction Medford Oregon - October 20 Smart Phones & Smarter Parents

Do they need a phone NOW?

External Internal Responsible Motivation Parent Coach Teach & Mentor & Discipline d l Not Responsible i h C Birth Age “Adult”

If they don’t own the “off” button, who does?

Extreme 1- I got this for you Parent Responsible Child Not Responsible Birth Age “Adult”

Extreme 2 - You figure it out Responsible Parent Not Responsible Distrust Self-Protection Child Age Birth

AT WHAT AGE? AMERICAN ACADEMY OF PEDIATRICS 2016 “Problems begin when media use displaces physical activity, hands-on exploration and face-to-face social interaction in the real world, which is critical to learning. Too much screen time can also harm the amount and quality of sleep.” ▸ < 18 Months - Avoid except video- chatting ▸ 18-24 months - 1 hour high-quality programing with parent participation ▸ 2-5 yrs - 1 hour per day high-quality programing ▸ 6+ - consistent limits ▸ All ages - Designated media-free times as well as locations. https://www.aap.org/en-us/about-the-aap/aap-press-room/Pages/American-Academy-of-Pediatrics-Announces-New-Recommendations-for-Childrens-Media-Use.aspx

Age does not equal readiness

Trustworthiness Builds Trust

What features do you want/need?

What features do they want?

Empathy

Risky Areas

“50% OF TEENS WOULD ACTUALLY CHANGE THEIR ONLINE BEHAVIOR IF THEY KNEW THEIR PARENTS WERE WATCHING” McAfee - The Digital Divide: How the Online Behavior of Teens is Getting Past Parents

YOU OWN IT

HELPING OUR KIDS NO EXPECTATION OF PRIVACY

PHONES GO TO SLEEP @ NIGHT

DUMBER PHONES

DUMBER PHONES APPS ▸ Parents install apps ▸ Stop in-app purchases ▸ Watch for vault & ghost apps ▸ Search for hidden apps and folders

DUMBER PHONES TIMES ▸ Stupid comes out at night ▸ School/Study time ▸ Family time 1 hour, 1 day, 1 week

DUMBER PHONES ACCOUNTABILITY ▸ Filtered Internet ▸ Monitored Internet ▸ No “Stealth” mode ▸ All Passwords including social media ▸ Monitor Texting

WHAT IF YOU JUST DON’T GET WHAT THEY ARE SAYING? TEXT CODE ▸ LMIRL = let’s meet in real life ▸ 53X = sneaky wat to type sex ▸ 1174 = meet at a party spot ▸ KMS = kill myself ▸ IWSN = I want sex now ▸ LH6 - let’s have sex ▸ CU46 = see you for sex ▸ KYS = kill yourself ▸ FWB = friends with benefits ▸ MOS = mom over the ▸ ADR = what’s your address shoulder ▸ MPFB = my personal f*** ▸ POS = parent over shoulder buddy ▸ CD9 = code 9, parents around ▸ PAL = parents are listening ▸ GNOC = get naked on camera ▸ TWD = texting while driving ▸ 99 = parents are gone ▸ GYPO = get your pants off ▸ WTTP = want to trade photos? https://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/columnist/2017/05/21/sneaky-teen-texting-codes-what-they-mean-when-worry/101844248/

DUMBER PHONES APPLE PRODUCTS ▸ Screen Time & Stronger Parental Control w/ IOS 12 ▸ Usage Tracking ▸ Down-time ▸ App Limits ▸ Content Restriction ▸ Account based

DUMBER PHONES ANDROID PHONES ▸ Google Family Link (under 13) ▸ families.google.com ▸ Norton Family Parental Control ▸ Kasperksy (Safe Kids App) ▸ App use and screen time ▸ Monitor calls and texts ▸ Location services ▸ ESET Parental Control

What if they are using someone else’s phone

Technology can’t parent

6 Steps Toward Freedom Helping Kids Recover

6 STEPS TO DISCOVERING FREEDOM #1 - FOCUS ON POSITIVE - WHAT DRIVES YOU TO SAFETY?

#2 - FOCUS ON RECOVERY OVER ABSTINENCE

#3 - INCREASE RESISTANCE

#4 - PURSUE YOUR WORST FEARS

#5 - DEVELOP AND WORK A PLAN

WHAT DO YOU WANT TO THINK ABOUT #6 - RENEW YOUR MINDS

PHILIPPIANS 4:8 Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on best by filling your minds and meditating on things true , noble , reputable , authentic , things true , noble , reputable , authentic , compelling , gracious —the best , not the compelling , gracious —the best , not the worst; the beautiful , not the ugly; things to worst; the beautiful , not the ugly; things to praise , not things to curse. praise , not things to curse.

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