RESILIENCE is about bouncing back from adversity but it’s not just about surviving the worst of our days but thriving every day
Key to Resilience • Deal with Amygdala Hijack • Build inner resources for future challenges • Marinate in the good
Key to Resilience • Deal with Amygdala Hijack • Build resources for future challenges • Marinade in the good
SURVIVAL IN THE BRAIN GUARD D DOG (A (AMYGDALA)
Guard dog’s job is singular. Is this new information from my senses GATE K KEEPER safe or (A (AMYGDALA) unsafe?
Wise Owl is r ational and logical, involved in emotional regulation and behaviour regulation in the brain. WISE O OWL (P (Pre-Frontal C Cortex)
When Guard Dog triggers a stress response it takes over the brain and body…
…and the Wise Owl starts to deactivate. The guard dog is now in charge without access to rational In Inverse brain function Re Relationship
We have 6 seconds to keep the wise owl 6 6 on-line Se Second ond Ru Rule
S: Stop T: Take a Breath O: Observe P: Proceed
6 6 Se Second ond Ru Rule
e c n e i l i s e R o t y e K a l a d g y m A h d t i w e n l a r a e D e L • s n o s s e L k c a j i H Thinking Traps r o f s e c r u o s e r d l i u B • s e g l o n r e t n l l o a C h c e r u t u f d o o g e h t n i e d a n i r a M •
L L e e s s s s o o n n s s L L e e a a r r n n e e d d
T T h h i i n n k k a a b b o o u u t t a a t t i i m m e e i i n n t t h h e e p p a a s s t t t t h h a a t t w w a a s s d d i i f f f f i i c c u u l l t t , , w w h h e e r r e e y y o o u u h h a a d d t t o o c c a a l l l l u u p p o o n n a a l l l l y y o o u u r r r r e e s s o o u u r r c c e e s s t t o o d d e e a a l l w w i i t t h h i i t t . .
SUPPORTS STRATEGIES (that hold you up) (that keep you moving) 4 S Framework THINGS THAT HELP PEOPLE THAT KEEP YOU DEAL WITH YOU UPRIGHT NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS My Past Sources of SAGACITY SOLUTIONS Resilience (give you comfort/hope) (behaviours you’ve shown) WHAT BEHAVIOUR AND WISDOM & INSIGHTS SOLUTIONS HELPED YOU HOLD ONTO BEFORE: EG. PROBLEM SOLVING, INFORMATION A QUOTE, SONG GATHERING, PLANNING AHEAD, NEGOTIATING, LYRIC, GRANDADS VOICING YOUR OPINION, SAYING ASKING FOR HELP
Thinking Th Traps Tr
The Three P’s P ERSONALISATION P ERMANENCE P ERVASIVENESS
P ERSONALISATION Blaming Ourselves I should have or Others done more Why didn’t I protect them more?
P ERMANENCE I will never Things will be like this for ever meet someone I’ll be/feel like this forever I will never be able to find another job
P ERVASIVENESS Its just a matter of time This event will effect before I loose all my clients. everything in my life (there is nothing good) My Life Sucks!
Control Control
r r Ove e e d d ver n n U U Control Control l l o o r r t t n n o o C C ess F F ples e e Helpl a a r r Hel S S Victim t t r r e e s s Vi s s
C a n ’ t Can C o n t r o l Control
C a n ’ t Can C o n Adaptive t r o l Control Surrend Surre Coping nder Res Responsibl blity Le Letti tting ng Go Au Autonomuy
e c n e i l i s e R o t y e K a l a d g y m A h t i w l a e D • k c a j i H r o f s e c r u o s e r d l i u B • s e g n e l l a h c e r u t u f d o o g e h t n i e d a n i r a M •
NEGATIVITY BIAS
Our brains are Velcro for the bad and Teflon BAD for good. GOOD Dr. Rick Hanson
We have a brain designed to SURVIVAL IS • Scan for bad news THE Over focus on it • Over-react to it GAME • Fast track it to memory OF • Become gradually THE desensitize to it over BRAIN time
TAKE IN THE GOOD
3 GOOD THINGS Happiness MEANING What went Strategy Why it went well well today Why it made 1 (3 unique things) you feel good
Happiness 3 Strategy new 2 things I’m grateful for
Fast S t a y w i t h i t f o r a b r e a t h l o n g e r track F e e l i t i n y o u r b o d y a good moment F o c u s o n w h a t f e e l s g o o d a b o u t i t to memory bank in the brain Happiness Strategy 3
Key to Resilience • Deal with the d e n r a e L s n o s Amygdala Hijack s e L l o r t n o C • Build inner resources for future challenges Thinking Traps • Marinate in the good
C ompassion is Key
Meditation in Pr Progress
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