Parent Notes and Family Plan Why does my gifted kid explode? - PDF document

Parent Notes and Family Plan Why does my gifted kid explode? Consider some of the reasons your child may explode in the following areas: Special needs : Executive Functioning Skills Weaknesses : Stressors : Notes about our Safety Plan : Notes about our family calming plan for each person (calm-down places, when to take a break, what to do when you take a break, how to calm down Amy G. Dala) Intensities & Sensitivities – What does my child have, what does each member of the family have : Intensity and Sensitivity Management Plan for each family member: How can each person fulfill Intensity needs? How can each person manage Sensitivities?

Additional planning for Calming Plan for managing Intensities and Sensitivities : Cues that Intensity is Rising ( Raising Your Spirited Child Workbook. Mary Sheedy Kurcinka (Mar 4, 1998) Won’t share Doesn’t listen Clings Gets louder Becomes impatient Is easily frustrated Makes jerky movements Swears Becomes sarcastic Complains about noise Slams doors Throws things Stomps Uses nasty tone of voice Becomes wild or silly Can’t get dressed Becomes belligerent Becomes quiet Whines Grows irritable Bites Runs away Wants to be held Hits Flops on floor Becomes confrontational Grits teeth Growls Name-calls Face flushes Breathes faster Becomes grumpy Becomes indecisive Gets “in your face Becomes bossy Gets more sensitive Cues intensity is rising for each family member: Intensity & Sensitivity Daily Management Plan Suggested Calming Activities from Raising Your Spirited Child Workbook. Mary Sheedy Kurcinka (Mar 4, 1998). 1) Exercise Younger Children Older Children and Adults Crawling Roller-blading Riding a tricycle Weight lifting Chasing a ball Aerobics Climbing Walking Obstacle course Flying on a trapeze Dancing Dancing Tumbling Ice-skating Running Running Sports 2) Repetitive Motion Sucking: nursing, bottles, pacifiers, thumb Drinking from a straw Swinging Chewing gum or licorice Rocking Swinging Riding a rocking horse Rocking Riding a tricycle Jumping rope Riding in a baby carrier Jumping on a trampoline Going for a walk Riding a bike Talking to a friend Going for a walk

3) Deep Breathing Blowing bubbles Counting to ten Blowing out pretend birthday candles Placing a hand on your belly and breathing from there Taking three deep breaths before responding 4) Humor Being silly Being silly Creating imaginative characters Making funny comments Doing funny voices Giving unexpected reactions Making silly noises Telling jokes Playing with puppets Being playful 5) Change of Scene or Activity Going outside Going outside Hugging Hugging Singing Singing or whistling Listening to music Playing an instrument Playing with modeling dough Watching a funny movie Dancing Dancing Taking a bath Taking a bath or shower Getting a massage Working on a card collection or other hobbies Taking a break in a quiet space Taking a break Playing with water in the sink or dishpan Cooking or baking Playing in sand or a dishpan of rice Talking to a friend Holding a blanket or favorite “lovie” Cleaning Playing with puppets, stuffed animals Knitting Playing with Legos or Duplos Woodworking Reading Reading Coloring or drawing Drawing or painting Being held Getting a massage Stroking pets Stroking pets Going for a walk Walking gardening Notes about Parenting Strategies – Phases of Escalation: Notes about collaborative problem-solving discussions and prioritizing teaching skills on a regular basis: List of fun activities, strengths we can acknowledge, moments we can create to increase bonding and connection with each other in our family:

Resources Parenting all ages of children to reduce power struggles, explosions and tantrums The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible. Ross W., PhD Greene (Jan 19, 2010). Website has videos and helpful resources – www.livesinthebalance.org Parenting Without Power Struggles: Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids While Staying Cool, Calm, and Connected. Susan Stiffelman (Mar 13, 2012). Parenting and the neuroscience of learning The Little Book of Big Stuff About Your Brain. Dr. Andrew Curran. (2008). The Whole Brain Child. Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, PhD. (2012). Parenting and educating to improve self-talk about perfectionism, failure, challenges and learning in a health way Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Carol Dweck. (Dec 26, 2007). Opening Minds: Using Language to Change Lives . Peter H. Johnston. (2012). Parenting highly sensitive children The Highly Sensitive Child: Helping Our Children Thrive When the World Overwhelms Them. Elaine Aron (Oct 8, 2002). Parenting to improve executive functioning skills Smart but Scattered (for elementary aged children) Peg Dawson and Richard Guare (Jan 2, 2009). Smart But Scattered for Teens. Richard Guare Phd, Peg Dawson EdD and Colin Guare (Dec 17, 2012). Parenting gifted children Living With Intensity: Understanding the Sensitivity, Excitability, and the Emotional Development of Gifted Children . Susan Daniels and Michael M. Piechowski (Nov 1, 2008). Mellow Out, They Say. If I Only Could: Intensities and Sensitivities of the Young and Bright. Michael M. Piechowski (Mar 9, 2006). A Parent's Guide to Gifted Teens: Living with Intense and Creative Adolescents . Lisa Rivero. (April 15, 2010). See companion book in teen book section, below.

Managing sensory Issues (for everyone with sensory issues, not just sensory conditions) Too Loud, Too Bright, Too Fast, Too Tight: What to Do If You Are Sensory Defensive in an Overstimulating World . Sharon Heller (Dec 2, 2003). This is an interesting book with many helpful suggestions for people with sensory issues that do not necessarily have any sensory disorders. Understanding gifted children with ADHD or Asperger’s Different Minds: Gifted Children With AD/HD, Asperger Syndrome, and Other Learning Deficits. Deirdre V. Lovecky (Nov 15, 2003). This is a very interesting and well-researched book that describes and compares gifted kids, kids with ADHD, gifted kids with ADHD and kids with Asperger’s. Article on SENG (Social and Emotional Needs of the Gifted) website : Before Referring a Gifted Child for ADHD/ADD Evaluation. Sharon Lind ,1996. Parenting younger children Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent. Mary Sheedy Kurcinka (Nov 28, 2006). Raising Your Spirited Child Workbook. Mary Sheedy Kurcinka (Mar 4, 1998). This workbook has helpful lists and applicable suggestions. This workbook is very useful with several ideas and applications. Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles: Winning for a Lifetime by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka (Feb 20, 2001). Books for teens Smart Teens' Guide to Living with Intensity: How to Get More Out of Life and Learning. Lisa Rivero (Apr 15, 2010). See companion book in section for parenting gifted, above. Take Control of ADHD: The Ultimate Guide for Teens With ADHD . Ruth Spodak, PhD and Kenneth Stefano, PsyD. (Mar 1, 2011). The Survival Guide for Kids with Autism Spectrum Disorders (And Their Parents). Elizabeth Verdick and Elizabeth Reeve M.D. (Mar 22, 2012) . Books for children about controlling anger What to Do When Your Temper Flares: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Problems With Anger (What to Do Guides for Kids. Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews (Oct 15, 2007). How to Take the Grrrr Out of Anger. Elizabeth Verdick and Marjorie Lisovskis (Dec 15, 2002).

Books for children about stress reduction and worries What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Anxiety (What to Do Guides for Kids). Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews (Sep 2005). Be the Boss of Your Stress (Be The Boss Of Your Body). Timothy Culbert M.D. and Rebecca Kajander C.P.N.P. M.P.H. (Jul 10, 2007). Peaceful Piggy Meditation (Albert Whitman Prairie Books). Kerry Lee Maclean and Kerry Maclean (Jan 1, 2004) Moody Cow Meditates. Kerry Lee MacLean (Sep 1, 2009) Book for children about perfectionism What to Do When Good Enough Isn't Good Enough: The Real Deal on Perfectionism: A Guide for Kids. Thomas S. Greenspon Ph.D. (Mar 15, 2007). Book for children about ADHD The Survival Guide for Kids with ADD or ADHD . John F. Taylor Ph.D. (Mar 15, 2006). Contact Information Anne nne (Rink Rinken enberge berger) Tyl ) Tyler er, , MS, MS, LMFT LMFT Tyl yler Ins er Insti titute tute 4500 Park Glen Rd., Suite 150 St. Louis Park, MN 55416 612.387.1797