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KNOW YOURSELF TO GROW YOURSELF S E L F AWA R E N E S S F O R P O S I T I V E G R OW T H A N D R E L AT I O N S H I P S

WHY SELF AWARENESS?

IMPORTANCE OF SELF ACCEPTANCE • From acceptance comes transformation Hmm… I do interrupt people while they talk. So what if I did that. That was I will be more watchful Its not my fault. They did this / the best I could do. This is next time The situation was like this … .. who I am

P E R S O N A L I T Y P L U S Lets look at the 4 personality types and identify our strengths and weaknesses.

POPULAR SANGUINE

POPULAR SANGUINE Basic Desire: Fun Love to be with people Holds the Appealing Talkative, Forgetful “ Life is for attention of personality storyteller nature partying ” the listener Good on Love to Creative and Innocent Curious stage volunteer colorful God given Inspires and Makes friends ability to live charms easily/compas in the others sionate present

Restless Weak Willed

PROBLEMS THEY FACE Have Interrupt and Tendency to be Tendency to Tendency to be uncultivated answer for disorganized talk too much self-centered memories others and immature • Talk half as • Be sensitive • Pay attention • Don ’ t • Pull your life much to other to names and consider together people ’ s those with yourself to be • Watch for • Grow up interest you appointed by signs of God as the boredom • Learn to • Write things official gap listen down • Condense filler of life your comments • Stop exaggerating MUST: Learn self-control Become organized

POWERFUL CHOLERIC

POWERFUL CHOLERIC Basic Desire: Control This is a dynamic person who dreams the impossible and aims to reach the unreachable. बलवान is Golden rule to get Talker / बलवान - along with बलवान : optimistic with Achiever do it my way now. good planning बलवान is goal and action-oriented

POWERFUL CHOLERIC Basic Desire: Control Compulsive Strong-willed Goal- need for Born leader and decisive. oriented change Knows the Has little Organizes Thrives on art of need for well opposition delegation friends Is usually Excels in Optimistic right emergencies

बलवान finds it difficult to accept their mistake (Mr/Ms. No Fault) If बलवान acknowledges that their nature is abrasive, they can transform themselves because they are strong willed

PROBLEMS THEY FACE A workaholic who बलवान struggles बलवान wants to be बलवान must be in believes that life is while dealing with right even if it means meant for constant control people being unpopular achievements and production • Respond to other ’ s • Practice patience • Let someone else • Learn to relax leadership be right • Refrain from • Take pressure off • Let others make advising until asked • Learn to apologize others decisions and • Mellow down • Admit that you have • Plan leisure organize events some faults • Reduce arguing and activities • Give up the attitude causing trouble of being superior • Stop manipulating MUST: Develop humility Become sensitive

PERFECT MELANCHOLY

PERFECT MELANCHOLY Basic Desire: Perfection Richest of all temperaments, the ववचारवान is analytical, self-sacrificing, talented and perfectionist type with very sensitive, emotional nature. Of all the four types, the ववचारवान is the most fond of fine arts. Right from their Not after excitement childhood, the but care for the best ववचारवान are deep plan for life thinkers, quiet and demanding. They like to be alone.

PERFECT MELANCHOLY Basic Desire: Perfection Richest of all temperaments, the ववचारवान is analytical, self-sacrificing, talented and perfectionist type with very sensitive, emotional nature. Of all the four types, the ववचारवान is the most fond of fine arts. Fond of lists, Deep, thoughtful Serious and Intellectually Talented and charts, graphs and analytical purposeful genius creative and figures Motto of life: “ If Perfectionist Conscious of Orderly and something is worth with high Economical details organized doing, it is worth standards doing it right ” Deep concern Seeks ideal mate and compassion

A combination of contrasts with High highs and Low lows)

PROBLEMS THEY FACE Tendency to put Tendency to be Tendency to get Tendency to low Tendency to unrealistic revengeful or easily depressed self-image procrastinate demands on hold grudges others • Realize that no • Search out the • Spend less time • Relax your • Forget and one likes source of in planning and standards, not forgive … Life is gloomy people insecurities more time in everything in life too short to acting can be perfect. hold grudges • Do not keep • Listen for searching for evidence of false the problems humility (which arise from expecting too much from life, themselves MUST: Develop a Positive Attitude and others) • Don ’ t get hurt Become cheerful and grateful so easily since “ hurting people can hurt others ” • Look for the positives

PEACEFUL PHLEGMATIC

PEACEFUL PHLEGMATIC Basic Desire: Peace Can become a Is closest to Does not take Is a `great leveler ’ Is very easy to get Is a learned `buffer’ for becoming a part in extremes for others along with leader balanced person and excesses others Is always peaceful, Attracts others less angry, logical, Can become a by his/her Is never pushy never impulsive, good arbitrator Is a redeemer Is easygoing humility and reliable, loyal and and mediator gentleness patient Is realistic owing Has Is calm, cool and Is patient, well- to a pessimistic administrative Is a good listener collected balanced nature ability

PEACEFUL PHLEGMATIC Basic Desire: Peace • Has low key strengths and low key weaknesses. • Hides his/her ‘ good ’ and ‘ bad ’ . • Greatest strength is the lack of other types ’ weaknesses • Unenthusiastic, worries silently and tends not to take strong decisions

PROBLEMS THEY FACE T ends to be lazy and lacking courage, T ends to be T endency to be T endency not to tends to take the Is not exciting stubbornly resistant wishy-washy and open up easily path of least to changes indecisive resistance, running • Try to get excited • Motivate yourself • Learn to • In the following away from • Learn to accept to change communicate sense: (a) controversies responsibility of feelings change decision your life based on “ people pleasing ” , in order • Don ’ t put off until to protect image tomorrow, what (b) unwillingness you can do today to pay the price in • Motivate yourself terms of money, time and hard work. • Practice making decisions MUST: Become Courageous Take Action

OVERCOMING CORE WEAKNESSES

WHAT IS AN IRRATIONAL BELIEF • The word “ belief ” means a conviction in the truth, actuality, or validity of something. So a belief is a thought with an emotional component (conviction) and a factual component (truth, actuality or validity). Beliefs can be either positive or negative. Having a negative belief is not necessarily a bad thing; however, when one believes in something that is false, a negative belief tends to become what Ellis called an “ irrational ” belief. Irrational beliefs are not friendly to happiness and contentment and are definitely unhelpful for getting one ’ s basic desires for love and approval, comfort and achievement or success met.

WHAT IS AN IRRATIONAL BELIEF • It distorts reality. • It is illogical. • It prevents you from reaching your goals. • It leads to unhealthy emotions( vs adaptive) • It leads to self-defeating behavior.

CORE ROOTS FOR IRRATIONAL BELIEFS • Demandingness or Absolutism – inflexible, dogmatic, extreme beliefs signaled by words such as should, must, have to, and need to (e.g., “ I should not be in pain ” or “ I should be able to do what I used to do ” ). This is not the kind of should as in “ I should go to the store and get some milk, ” but rather a should with a capital “ S ” , a demand. – Demand for Love and Approval from nearly everyone one finds important – Demand for Success or Achievement in things one finds important – Demand for Comfort or nearly no frustration or discomfort. • When someone holds one of these irrational beliefs, they also tend to hold one or a combination of the following irrational beliefs. – Awfulization – refers to 100% disasterizing beliefs signaled by such words as disaster, horrible or awful, and catastrophe. – Low Frustration Tolerance – beliefs signaled by words such as intolerable, can ’ t stand it, and too hard. – Global-Rating – beliefs in which you condemn or blame your entire selfhood or someone else ’ s basic value in some important way. Global rating is signaled by such words as loser, worthless, useless, idiot, stupid.