I Peter 3:1-7 1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so - PDF document

8/15/13 ¡ I Peter 3:1-7 1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct. 3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair Wives & Husbands and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— 4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable I Peter 3:1-7 beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. 5 For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. 7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. ¡ Ephesians 5:21-33 Roles 21 Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the • Are not arbitrarily assigned wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. 25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ • Not reversible without obscuring God’s loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, purpose for marriage having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or • Compared to the distinctive roles of Christ & any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his His Church wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of ¡ his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:23-25 John Piper 23 For the husband is the head of the wife “When sin entered the world, it ruined the harmony of marriage, even as Christ is the head of the church, the relationship between Adam & Eve. Not because it brought his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now headship and submission into existence, but because it twisted as the church submits to Christ, so also man’s humble, loving headship into hostile domination in some wives should submit in everything to their mean and lazy indifference in others. And it twisted woman’s husbands. 25 Husbands, love your wives, intelligent, willing submission into manipulative obsequiousness in some women and brazen insubordination in others. sin didn’t as Christ loved the church and gave create headship & submission, God did.” himself up for her 1 ¡

8/15/13 ¡ Headship & Submission I Peter 3:1-2 • Headship – divine calling of a husband to take primary responsibility for Christ-like 1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own leadership, protection and provision in the husbands, so that even if some do not obey home. the word, they may be won without a word • Submission is the divine calling of a wife to by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they honor & respect, affirm her husband’s see your respectful and pure conduct. ¡ leadership and help carry it through. ¡ Submission Submission Submission is à Submission is not à à à • Honor, respect & affirm your husbands • Agreeing with everything your husband says leadership • Leaving your brain or will at the wedding altar • Help carry it through • Avoiding every effort to change your husband • Putting the will of your husband before the will of • Have the disposition to follow your husband’s Christ authority • Receiving personal & spiritual strength primarily • Have an inclination to yield to his leadership through her husband • Acting out of fear It is an attitude that says, “I delight for you to take the initiative in our family. I am glad when you take responsibility for things and lead with love. I don’t flourish in the ¡ relationship when you are passive and I have to make sure the family works.” ¡ Headship & Submission I Peter 3:3-4 3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— 4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the Goal of submission is REDEMPTIVE heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious . ¡ 2 ¡

8/15/13 ¡ I Peter 3:5-6 What Peter is Communicating… He’s not saying… à à 5 For this is how the holy women who hoped • Women shouldn’t take care of themselves in God used to adorn themselves, by • Women cannot braid their hair or wear jewelry. submitting to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you He is saying… à à are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. ¡ • Outward things do not make the woman • True beauty is inward • Women should strive for a quiet and gentle spirit ¡ I Peter 3:7 Husbands • An Understanding way 7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in ü Know and understand your wife ü Lead as Christ leads and loves an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are • Showing honor heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your ü Assign to our wives the honor being prayers may not be hindered. ¡ precious and of high value ü Understand her physical limitations ¡ Let’s Get Practical - Guys Let’s Get Practical - Gals • Need constant reassurances…every day • Publicly affirm your husband • Need to hear “I love you” and “I find you • Value & appreciate his work attractive” • Don’t nag • Physical responsiveness is tied to how well your wife feels love, care, heard and supported • Initiate sex • Need to be listened to without offering advice • Pray for your husband or solutions God knew, even before Emerson Eggerichs, that men need God knew, even before Emerson Eggerichs, that men need ¡ respect and women need love ¡ respect and women need love 3 ¡

8/15/13 ¡ For Discussion • How have the Biblical roles of headship and submission affected your marriage or dating relationships? • Has there been tension in your relationships as a result of trying to live or ignore the Biblical roles? • Have you ever resented your biblical role and the responsibility it places on you? ¡ 4 ¡