Chocolate, Flowers, & Klonopin
Top 5: Women Are Amazing! 5. We smell better than men 4. We live longer than men 3. We can produce a new organ! 2. We can produce milk! 1. We can produce people!
The Chocolate – Choices • The steps: – Know yourself – Know yourself in connection
Do You Know Yourself?
What’s important to you?
Know Yourself in Connection • Jean Baker Miller • Towards a New Psychology of Women • All development, even in men, occurs within relationships • Women thrive in this context. Unless….. they are forced to
The Flowers - Relationships • The steps – Identify relationships that are important to you and those that aren’t. – Become aware of relationships you didn’t know affected you. – Use Discursive Psychology to help you!
Relational-Cultural Theory of Women • “ … women stay with, build on, and develop in a context of connections with others. Indeed, women’s sense of self becomes very much organized around being able to make and then to maintain affiliations and relationships.” – Jean Baker Miller, M.D.
Take Action Within Healthy Relationships • Healthy relationships lead to: – empowerment to act – vitality, self-worth – the desire to have more connection – and greater knowledge of self & others • Disconnected relationships lead to: – decreased energy and self worth – destructive conflict – a diminished desire to connect
The Cycle: Messages from Society
What is language… really?
Your Public Identity • Public Identity = identity is constructed through actions and words. • “ Who we are to each other.” • Discursive psychology: when we talk, we tell each other who we are.
Who’s responsible for your language? • Partly society – Society tells us what’s acceptable to talk about
Society’s Role? I go a million miles an hour. So I conserve energy everywhere else I can.
We all have to do 10 things at once. Perfectly.
Cars
The Cycle: Messages from Society Stress Stress Stress
Who’s responsible for your language, cont’d? • Partly us – When we talk, we add to the conversation.
The Cycle: Messages from Society Stress Stress Stress How we talk and act
What do you think about her life? • Samantha is very happy with her life. She is married with two children. Her husband shares the housework and childcare duties. She works part-time and her schedule is flexible. Her boss is very understanding and she gets along well with her coworkers. What do you think of Samantha?
The Risks: 1. Don’t think I’m irresponsible 2. Don’t leave me out! • She’s a liar! • Fantasyworld! • Must be nice! • Lucky! • Well, the other shoe’s about to drop! • That’s not realistic!
Ginger • Ginger: I do. I I have to have my sleep and I know that about myself? Um, there is a point that when I am up too long, that my stomach starts hurting and I start feeling ill and if I don't go to sleep, I'm going to be a wreck pretty quick. It happens pretty quick, so I do get enough sleep. That's a huge in my life, but I'm not lazy. I mean, I'm up by four forty-five. Well, I don't take naps and I don't sleep on the weekend and stuff, so
Making Changes: Breaking the Cycle: Messages from Society Stress Stress Stress How we talk and act
The bottom line? The language risk!
The Klonopin - Biology • The steps – Know your genes – Know your body
Is Different Bad?
Know Your Genes! Serotonin Hormones
Know Your Body!
You can make a difference
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