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Building Relationships as Introverts Kayla Thomas Lisette Khalil MarComm Manager Operations Director LK: Intro to Kayla KT: Intro to Lisette, KT announce ‘ice breaker/social experiment’, LK announce Q+A with question cards

Are you an introvert? Extrovert vs. Introvert KT

Extrovert Introvert How do you recharge? KT

Checklist of 23 Signs You’re an Introvert From Huffington Post Interview w/Sophia Dembling, ‘The Introvert’s Way: Live a Quiet Life in a Noisy World” ● You find small talk incredibly cumbersome ● Networking makes you feel like a phony ● You go to parties, but not to meet new people Other Introvert ● You can feel alone in a crowd T raits ● You notice details that others don’t ● You actively avoid shows/performances that might involve audience participation ● You’re a writer ● You’re in a relationship with an extrovert LK

● Real live introverts married to extroverts Extrovert/Introvert Relationship 
 Case Study LK and KT

Introverts 101 What makes us tick? KT

● We get more energy and recharge when we are not around other people. Introverts 101 
 ● Downtime doesn’t feel unproductive, but Social Behavior necessary. ● We literally shut down when it’s time to be alone. KT

Introverts 101 Social Behavior KT

● Thinking and creating is easier alone than in groups. Introverts 101 
 ● We alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity. Work Flow ● We benefit from less office chit chat and thrive on having serious conversations. LK

Introverts 101 Work flow LK

● Thoughtful ● Observant Introverts are ● Focused awesome because we are: ● Concise ● Able to think through complex issues ● Good listeners ● Independent/self-sufficient LK with KT additions

Introverts 101 Misconceptions KT

● Shy ● Socially anxious ● Awkward Introverts ≠ ● Quiet ● Hermits ● Not competitive KT

Introverts ≠ ● http://www.today.com/video/are-you-an- introvert-heres-how-to-tell-45720643676 KT: Here is a short clip from the Today show. We’ll hear from Carolyn Gregoire of the Huffington Post and Dr. Charles Sophy explain ways to tell, and dispel common misconceptions about introverts.

5 Strategies 
 for Success Social Behavior KT

GREAT NEWS! You’re an Introvert! ● Understand that introverts and extroverts have different assets, and that’s okay. ● We live in an extroverted society, learn to champion your introverted Strategy #1 
 traits. Recognize That Y ou Are an Introvert ● Learn more about your needs and what makes you great. KT: Quotes from ‘Quiet’ Storytime, KT discovering she was an introvert, dealing with the aftermath, accepting and embracing the label.

Give yourself permission to recharge. It is a necessity. At Home ~ Self Care: Be Active Take another Nap Listen to Music Strategy #2 
 Get Outside Do an Art Project Enjoy Nature Create Time for Read a book Meditate Go to a Coffee Shop Recharging Take A Nap Organize a ClosetJust Breathe Eat Well Mow the Lawn 5 Min Alone in Car Watch Netflix Plant Flowers Find a Hobby Go to the Spa Pretend your bathroom is the spa KT

● We get each other and aren’t offended by our need to be alone or quiet. ● We need someone to listen to us too. BONUS: Tips for our extroverted friends in the room Strategy #3: 
 We love you! Also, we need your support Befriend Other ☺ TIPS to love your introvert: Introverts 1. ‘Tired’ is code for ‘we’re done with people’ 2. If we don’t respond to your text/ email/ESPECIALLY phone call right away, give us time, we just need space. 3. We need to be mentally prepared to see people. KT

You have plans, now what? ● How full is your battery? ● Prep your people Strategy #4: 
 ● Scan for your safe zone Plan for Y our ● How to avoid small talk Social ● Ask Questions! ● Plan your talking points Experiences ● Plan for a change in plan ● But if plans cancel… KT

● What are your cues that you need to recharge? ● Are you tired? Irritated? ● Short tempered? Brain dead? . Strategy #5: 
 ● Communicate that you need alone time Create Social ● Create a ‘safe’ word Cues for Y ourself ● When is your ‘bubble’ and Loved Ones popped?

5 Strategies 
 for Success Work Flow

The Realities ● There will be meetings ● There will be teams ● Networking is necessary ● Annual fundraisers (ie high social environments) are required ● Developing relationships is critical to success

Look ahead in your calendar and ask yourself… ● When will my energy account be running on empty? Strategy #1: 
 ● After a team meeting? ● After attending a conference? Anticipate Y our ● After a fundraiser? Own Needs ● How long will I need to recharge? ● 30 minutes? ● A few hours? ● A few days?

Pre-Meeting/Event/Team Activity: ● Prepare ● What do you need to accomplish? Strategy #2: 
 ● What questions will you ask? ● What do you need to say? Plan Y our Energy ● What materials could you bring to speed things along? Use ● Stock Up On Energy ● Schedule “prep time” on your calendar ● Build in mini-breaks ● Be deliberate about time in the car

● Be deliberate about making time to recharge alone ● At the Office: ● Build the expectation within your office/team for alone time: ● Sign on the door time Strategy #3 
 ● Block off time on calendar for think time ● Put phone on “do not disturb” setting Create Time for ● Turn off Outlook message pop-ups Recharging ● Reward colleagues/supervisors who leave you alone by producing excellent work products that they need!

Most meetings = energy drain ● How to attend fewer meetings? Strategy #4: 
 ● Use a project management tool ● Share a timeline early in a project Schedule Fewer ● Schedule a pre-project meeting when many decisions are made Meetings rather than spreading them out through a project ● Demonstrate efficiency in lieu of meetings Example off hours – staffing office on a Saturday when student intern is working. Office is quiet, we get tons of work done, everyone is happy.

Let the extroverts use their gifts too! Your extrovert colleagues love to talk. Strategy #5: 
 Let them talk! Recognize the ● Buddy up at a networking event. Let your buddy ask questions, tell stories, and introduce both of you to Gift of the the room Extrovert ● Position extroverts at events as greeters, crowd flow, floaters, etc. ● Prep extroverts with efficiency tools prior to meetings (timelines, lists, processes, etc)

Introversion at Work Marketing and Communications

Make it Manageable ● Take a beat ● Even in the digital world, you do not need to respond immediately ● Acknowledge, respond when ready Example A: 
 ● “Thanks for your comment. I’m thinking about this and will get back to you later.” Set the Pace for ● “I’m not able to commit to anything over the phone, but send me an email and I’ll check out the information.” Communications ● “I only have a few moments before my next meeting, but will gladly look at this later in the week.” ● Find communication tools ● Say Hello to Trello ● https://trello.com/wwhf

• Put out notifications for staff to preserve brain space • But be inviting ☺ Example B: 
 Carve out Creative Time

Introversion at Work Development and Operations

Development: ● Grant Writing ● Annual Appeal Example A: 
 ● One-on-one meetings with funders A Different T ake ● Give a tour ~ Show your org on ● Pepper in touches that are not face-to-face Development ● Be the conductor ~ coordinate, facilitate, prepare (not schmooze) ● Be yourself Look for roles that can be accomplished well individually. Grant writing & management We are good listeners. Listen to donors and learn about their connection to the organization. We cut to the chase and are authentic ~ breath of fresh air We want less frequent, meaningful interactions

● https://targetingfundraisingtalent.files.wordpress.com/2014/06/intro- extrovert-infographic.png

Employer ● Share detailed job duties ● “Introverts welcome” ● Incorporate practical skills exercises into interview process Example B: 
 ● Deliberately plan employee work spaces Position Y ourself Employee For Success ● Focus on your strengths ● Carefully examine job duties and anticipate which ones will be most draining ● Writing skills are key

Introvert Resources Huffington Post: 23 Signs You’re Secretly An Introvert HubSpot: Think Marketing Is Just for Extroverts? 4 Things Introverts Bring to the Table Susan Cain: The Power of Introverts TED TALK Susan Cain: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking

Questions? Lisette Khalil Kayla Thomas Operations Director Marketing and Communication Manager Wisconsin Women’s Health Foundation Wisconsin Women’s Health Foundation Wwhf.org Wwhf.org lkhalil@wwhf.org kthomas@wwhf.org Wwhf.org Facebook.com/wiwomenshealth Youtube.com/wiwomenshealth @wiwomenshealth