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Appreciative Living Tony Silbert & Jackie Kelm

Learning Objectives: 1. Learn how to use AI in day-to-day life. 2. Discover what healing conversations are and how to have one. www.HealingConversationsNow.com www.AppreciativeLiving.com 2

Agenda • The AIA Model for applying AI daily • Life demonstration using the AIA model • The healing conversation process • Having a healing conversation www.HealingConversationsNow.com www.AppreciativeLiving.com 3

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Daily Meaning Experiences He drives I like where me crazy. I work. AIA -- ++ Model I’m happy I hate that happened. cleaning. ++ -- Root Stories Healing Conversations Life & Death Trust & Safety Love & Belonging Worthiness & Capability www.HealingConversationsNow.com www.AppreciativeLiving.com 6

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Think of something you would like to change or improve in your life that is causing you negative emotion. AIA AIA Model el www.HealingConversationsNow.com www.AppreciativeLiving.com

Now write a word that describes how it currently makes you Don’t panic! FEEL. This is a e.g. overwhelmed, BRIDGE tired, worried, exercise to AI stressed, etc. AIA Model AIA el www.HealingConversationsNow.com www.AppreciativeLiving.com

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1. A PPRECIATING WHAT IS • Looking for the good • HARD to do! Negativity Bias • Brain thinks you will die Goal: Feel Better www.HealingConversationsNow.com www.AppreciativeLiving.com

EXERCISE: APPRECIATING WHAT IS 1. List as many good things as you can about yourself: strengths, positive qualities, successes, accomplishments... 2. List as many good things as you can about the situation. What you might learn from it, what you’re grateful for, resources… www.HealingConversationsNow.com www.AppreciativeLiving.com

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2. I MAGINE THE IDEAL • Focus on you • Clarify what you want • Imagine it Goal: Picture What You Want www.HealingConversationsNow.com www.AppreciativeLiving.com

EXERCISE 1: DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT Reflect back on the word that described how your problem made you feel, and write down a new word that describes how you really want to feel instead. Examples: • Overwhelmed à In-Control • Tired à Energized • Worried à Secure • Stressed-out à Serene www.HealingConversationsNow.com www.AppreciativeLiving.com

EXERCISE 2: PICTURE WHAT YOU WANT • Everything stays the same other than you. (Annoying people, bad weather, mishaps, etc.) • You are feeling this new ideal way. (In- control… energized… secure… serene…) • Picture yourself in the future feeling this ideal way, and notice what YOU are thinking, doing, and saying that is creating this good feeling. www.HealingConversationsNow.com www.AppreciativeLiving.com

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3. A CT FROM INSPIRATION What is one thing you feel inspired to do, no matter how small, to move towards your ideal? Goal: Take inspired action. www.HealingConversationsNow.com www.AppreciativeLiving.com

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Rate Ra e Yoursel elf AGAIN AIN 1-10: 10: 1. How confident are you, that you can change this? 2. How inspired are you to take action right now? 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 SOME TOTAL ZERO SOME TOTAL CONFIDENCE OR CONFIDENCE OR CONFIDENCE OR CONFIDENCE OR CONFIDENCE OR MOTIVATION MOTIVATION MOTIVATION MOTIVATION MOTIVATION www.HealingConversationsNow.com www.AppreciativeLiving.com

Tony Silbert Jackie Kelm 401.787.2655 704.799.0975 tsilbert@healingconversationsnow.com Jkelm@AppreciativeLiving.com Twitter: @HealingNow www.AppreciativeLiving.com tsilbert@spartinaconsulting.com Twitter: SpartinaLLC and @TonySilbert Cop Copies of S of Slides www.AppreciativeLiving.com/WAIC www.HealingConversationsNow.com www.AppreciativeLiving.com