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A GREAT VIRTUE • THE FOUNDATION OF TRUST • THE HEART OF RELATIONSHIPS • AUTHENTICITY • INTEGRITY • SINCERITY • SAFETY HELEN.STREET@UWA.EDU.AU POSITIVESCHOOLS.COM.AU

“ WHAT IT MEANS TO BE HONEST ” TRUTH, SINCERITY, LAW ABIDING, MORAL STANDING, INTEGRITY, AUTHENTICITY, TRANSPARENT, WHOLE TRUTHFUL WITH OURSELVES, AUTHENTIC WITHIN OUT RELATIONSHIPS, SAFE WITHIN OUR COMMUNITY HELEN.STREET@UWA.EDU.AU POSITIVESCHOOLS.COM.AU

THE TRUTH ABOUT LIES • ADULTS LIE ALL THE TIME – 60% LIE 2 – 3 TIMES DURING ANY TEN MINUTE CONVERSATION (BELLA DEPAULO, 2009) • COLLEGE STUDENTS LIE TO PARENTS IN 50% OF CONVERSATIONS (BELLA DEPAULO, 1996) • “LIES GREASE THE WHEELS OF SOCIAL INTERACTION” (ROBERT FELDMAN) The Lies We Tell and the Clues We Miss: : Profes essiona onal Paper ers, , 2009 9 , Professor Bella DePaulo Ph.D. The Liar in Your r Life: The Way to Truthf hful ul Relations nship hips , 2009, 9, Professor Robert S. Feldman HELEN.STREET@UWA.EDU.AU POSITIVESCHOOLS.COM.AU

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LIES FOR SELF-PROTECTION • CHILDREN BEGIN LYING TO AVOID PUNISHMENT AT APPROX. AGE 3-5 • LEWIS ET AL., 1989; • POLAK & HARRIS, 1999; TALWAR & LEE, 2002 • TO GAIN REWARDS (EG PRAISE OR APPROVAL) OR • THEY ARE PRETTY BAD AT IT! • HEIDI GORDON & SIMON FRASER, 2007 HELEN.STREET@UWA.EDU.AU POSITIVESCHOOLS.COM.AU

LIES FOR OTHER’S PROTECTION FROM PRIMARY SCHOOL ONWARDS YOUNG PEOPLE LIE TO: PROTECT OTHERS FEELINGS IMPROVE SOCIAL RELATIONS FIT IN HELEN.STREET@UWA.EDU.AU POSITIVESCHOOLS.COM.AU

COMPASSIONATE HONESTY • LIVING BY THE MORAL STANDARDS OF SOCIETY • SELF-SERVING LIES VS ALTRUISTIC LIES • COMPASSIONATE TRUTH • AUTHENTICITY, SINCERITY, RESPECT "LYING HAS LONG BEEN A PART OF EVERYDAY LIFE. WE COULDN'T GET THROUGH THE DAY WITHOUT BEING DECEPTIVE.“ DR LEONARD SAXE HELEN.STREET@UWA.EDU.AU POSITIVESCHOOLS.COM.AU

1. TRUST YOUR STUDENTS TRUST PEOPLE AND TREAT THEM AS IF YOU TRUST THEM AND THEY WILL BE HONEST HELEN.STREET@UWA.EDU.AU POSITIVESCHOOLS.COM.AU

HONESTY SHOP AT ISHA VIDHYA ERODE “AFTER ALL THE SHOP HAS BEEN OPENED FOR US AND HOW CAN ONE BE DISHONEST. IT HAS SHAPED OUR CONSCIENCE AND DISCIPLINED US TO BE HONEST EVEN WHEN NO ONE IS THERE TO MONITOR US. NO ONE REALLY BELIEVED THAT SUCH A SYSTEM COULD WORK. WE ARE REALLY PROUD OF OUR SCHOOL.” KAVITHA, NINTH GRADE School ools in Tamil Nadu u promot ote honesty shops by R Sathyanarayana, published in Deccan Herald Oct 19, 2013 HELEN.STREET@UWA.EDU.AU POSITIVESCHOOLS.COM.AU

LONDON’S HONESTY BUS “WE TAKE STOCK EVERY MORNING AND EVERY EVENING AND DON’T SEEM TOHAVE LOST ANYTHING.” DAVID WATERHOUSE, CREATOR AND OWNER, 2013 HELEN.STREET@UWA.EDU.AU POSITIVESCHOOLS.COM.AU

2. ASSUME HONESTY IS THE NORM LET EVERYONE KNOW THAT HONESTY IS THE NORM IN YOUR SCHOOL COMMUNITY HELEN.STREET@UWA.EDU.AU POSITIVESCHOOLS.COM.AU

THE BEHAVIOURAL INSIGHTS TEAM Peter John, Michael Sanders, Jennifer Wang, (2014) The Use of Descriptive Norms in Public Administration: A Panacea for Improving Citizen Behaviours? Michael Hallsworth, John List, Robert Metcalfe, Ivo Vlaev, (2014) The Behavioralist As Tax Collector: Using Natural Field Experiments to Enhance Tax Compliance

SUPPORTING POSITIVE BEHAVIOURS WITH SOCIAL NORMS HELEN.STREET@UWA.EDU.AU POSITIVESCHOOLS.COM.AU

3. ENCOURAGE AWARENESS AND UNDERSTANDING OF MORAL STANDARDS REMIND STUDENTS ABOUT MORAL STANDARDS AND THEY WILL INCORPORATE THOSE MORAL STANDARDS INTO THEIR BEHAVIOUR HELEN.STREET@UWA.EDU.AU POSITIVESCHOOLS.COM.AU

EXPLICIT REMINDERS OF MORAL STANDARDS • SIGNING AT THE BEGINNING OF A TEST • LISA SHUA, NINA MAZARB, FRANCESCA GINOC, DAN ARIELY, AND MAX BAZERMANC (2012) • VERBALIZING VALUES AND MORAL CODE • AGREEING TO BE HONEST The (Honest) Truth About Dishonesty By Dan Ariely (2012)

4. BUILD A COHESIVE COMMUNITY DEVELOP COHESION AND POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS SO THAT STUDENTS WILL INTERNALIZE MORAL STANDARDS AND NORMS HELEN.STREET@UWA.EDU.AU POSITIVESCHOOLS.COM.AU

CREATING A COHESIVE ENVIRONMENT • GET TO KNOW YOUR STUDENTS, • LET STUDENTS GET TO KNOW YOU • SUPPORT CO-OPERATION NOT COMPETITION • CHOICE, CONTROL • BRING OUTSIDERS IN Trust in Schools: A Core Resource for School Reform, by Anthony Bryk and Barbara Schneider published in Educational Leadership in 2003 HELEN.STREET@UWA.EDU.AU POSITIVESCHOOLS.COM.AU

WHAT DOES NOT WORK PUNISHMENTS FOR UNWANTED BEHAVIOURS ALIENATION (REDUCING COHESION AND INCENTIVE TO FOLLOW MORAL STANDARD) CONFUSING RULES – DOBBING (KEN RIGBY – BYSTANDER IMPACT) IMPLIED DISHONESTY (EG STATING THAT STEALING IS PROHIBITED) HELEN.STREET@UWA.EDU.AU POSITIVESCHOOLS.COM.AU

HONESTY DEVELOPS WITH • TRUST YOUR STUDENTS • ASSUME HONESTY IS THE NORM • ENCOURAGE AWARENESS OF MORAL STANDARDS • BUILD A COHESIVE COMMUNITY HELEN.STREET@UWA.EDU.AU POSITIVESCHOOLS.COM.AU

HONEST COMMUNITIES ARE COHESIVE COMMUNITIES BUILT ON SHARED VALUES, TRUST, COMPASSION & AUTHENTICITY Trust in Schools: A Core Resource for School Reform, by Anthony Bryk and Barbara Schneider published in Educational Leadership in 2003 HELEN.STREET@UWA.EDU.AU POSITIVESCHOOLS.COM.AU