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6/6/2018 mpa thy Ga p : T he E Ma sc ulinity a nd the Co ura g e to Cha ng e AUDRE Y E RVI N, PH.D. BRE NDAN BARCA, B.A. WWW.E RVINCOUNSE L ING.COM Gro und Rule s  Re spe c t/ Mindfulne ss of Othe r s  L a ng ua g e  Se lf- R e fle c tion  T ry to b e a wa re o f yo ur pe rso na l re a c tio ns  Know Your L imits and Boundarie s  Only d isc lo se wha t is o ka y fo r yo u  Sitting with T ough E motions  Ho w do yo u kno w whe n yo u a re fe e ling de fe nsive ?  It’ s no t the e mo tio na l re spo nse b ut wha t yo u d o with it tha t ma tte rs Gro und Rule s  He a te d Ar g uing is Not the Inte nt  L iste n to o the rs pe rspe c tive s & ide a s e ve n if yo u disa g re e  Don’t Shut Some one Down  (a nd b e a wa re whe n yo u fe e l shut do wn)  Amne sty  T he rig ht to “sc re w up” in a n a tte mpt to unde rsta nd yo urse lf, yo ur c lie nts, yo ur re a c tio ns a nd the la rg e r wo rld 1

6/6/2018 Gro und Rule s  Be Ope n to Giving a nd Re c e iving Corre c tive F e e dba c k  Pe rsona l Awa re ne ss  I a m sha ring to o muc h o r to o little ?  T he rig ht to “le t it be .” Pro g ra m De sc riptio n • F ilmma ke r T ho ma s K e ith e xa mine s ho w Ame ric a n c ulture b o mb a rds yo ung me n with se xist a nd misog ynistic me ssa g e s . • I n T he E mpathy Gap , he lo o ks mo re c lo se ly a t the wa ys the se me ssa g e s short-c irc uit me n's a bility to e mpathize with wo me n a nd re spe c t the m a s e q ua ls. • T he film e xplo re s so me ke y me ssa g e s a b o ut ma nho o d tha t b o ys a b so rb fro m the c ulture -- tha t the y sho uld ac quir e ma te r ial we alth, me e t c onflic t with aggr e ssion, ha r de n the mse lve s, suppr e ss all human e motion e xc e pt ange r , and vie w wome n prima rily a s se xua l obje c ts. Ob je c tive s  Disc uss the doc ume ntary T he E mpathy Gap: Masc ulinity and the Cour age to Change  Asse ss the implic ations of masc uline soc ialization in the Unite d State s  E xplain how male ge nde r role norms e nc ourage boys and me n to partic ipate in inte rpe rsonal and intrape rsonal de valuation  De sc ribe the psyc hologic al c onse que nc e s of male ge nde r role c onflic t  De ve lop an ac tion plan to c ompe te ntly work with boys and me n 2

6/6/2018 Outline  5:00 Introduc tions & Obje c tive s  5:15 Ge nde r Soc ia liza tion a nd the Psyc holog ic a l Conse que nc e s  5:45-7:00 F ilm  7:00 Bre a k  7:15 Re a c tions to F ilm  7:30 Ac tion Pla n to F a c ilita te E mpa thy whe n Working with Boys a nd Me n  7:45 Wra p Up a nd Se ssion F e e dba c k Ba sic T e rms Bio lo g ic a l Se x/ Se x Assig ne d At Birth Ge nde r is So c ia lly Co nstruc te d Bio lo g ic a l Se x/ Se x Assig ne d At Birth  Ba se d o n c hro mo so me s  Ana to my (T e ste s, Ova rie s) American Psychological Association. (2015). Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming People. 3

6/6/2018 Ge nde r I de ntity  A pe rso n’ s de e ply ‐ fe lt, inhe re nt se nse o f b e ing ma sc uline , fe minine o r a n a lte rna tive g e nde r (e .g ., g e nde rq ue e r, g e nde r no nc o nfo rming , g e nde r ne utra l) tha t ma y o r ma y no t c o rre spo nd to a pe rso n’ s se x a ssig ne d a t b irth.  Ba se d o n so c ia lly c o nstruc te d & c ultura lly spe c ific e xpe c ta tio ns American Psychological Association. (2015). Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming People. Ge nde r So c ia liza tio n  T he pro c e ss o f le a rning the no rms, rule s a nd e xpe c ta tio ns a b o ut wha t it me a ns to b e a g irl o r b o y (o r o the r g e nd e rs) 4

6/6/2018 Ge nde r a s Diffe re nc e : Na ming the Myth!  One se t o f c ha ra c te ristic s, a b ilitie s, a nd inte re sts b e lo ng to o ne g e nde r a nd a no the r se t b e lo ng s to the “o ppo site ” g e nde r  T he Assumption : Gro up A a nd B do no t ha ve the sa me c ha ra c te ristic s in c o mmo n a nd this is biolog ic a l in na ture Ge nde r a s Diffe re nc e F e ma le Ma le  Ca ring  Stro ng  Nurturing  Do mina nt   E mpa the tic Asse rtive  E mo tio na l  Hype rse xua l  Pa ssive  L ike s to b uild thing s  L ike s pre tty dre sse s  Are pro vide rs  L o ve s sto rie s, da nc ing , a nd  L ike s fo o tb a ll, c a rs, a nd se wing wre stling So Wha t a re the Ac tua l Diffe re nc e s Be twe e n Ma le s a nd F e ma le s? (As Do c ume nte d T hro ug h Re se a rc h)   No Diffe re nc e : L arge Diffe re nc e s:  I nte llig e nc e  Me mo ry  He ig ht  Co g nitive style s  Cre a tivity  T hro wing dista nc e  T e mpe ra me nt  E mpa thy  F a c ia l e xpre ssive ne ss  Nurtura nc e  Altruism  Mo ra lity  Asse rtive ne ss  Se xua l re spo nsive ne ss 5

6/6/2018 Ge nde r So c ia liza tio n: T he E mo tio na l Co nse q ue nc e s Females Males  Be a “sturdy o a k”-do n’ t  Pa ssive o r nurturing sho w e mo tio ns  Ca re ta ke r  Be the b re a dwinne r  T a ke n a dva nta g e o f  Suc c e ss, po we r, a nd  L o w se lf-e ste e m c o mpe titio n  Miss o ppo rtunitie s  Re stric tive e mo tio na lity  Mo re like ly to suffe r  Re stric tive a ffe c tio na te fro m de pre ssio n a nd b e ha vio r b e twe e n me n e a ting diso rde rs  De va lue the fe minine Anger is the only emotion “okay” for men and the only emotion NOT okay for women Miso g yny & Oppre ssio n: Co mmo n Me dia T he me s  Girls a re se xual obje c ts to b e use d  De huma nize d, e xo tic ,  T a nima listic he infantilization o f wo ma n  Girls ne e d to b e ta ke n c a re o f (a nd  F e ma le E mpo we rme nt: sho wn who is the b o ss) Po we r=Se xua liza tio n  Me n a re b re a dwinne rs; g irls do do me stic wo rk  A g irls worth is re la te d to he r appe aranc e  Be ing a re a l ma n me a ns obje c tifying wome n a nd e ng a g ing  Yo u must b e thin & se xy in se xual c onque st (b ut no t a who re )  Se xua liza tio n o f yo ung g irls  Re al me n don’t c ry 6

6/6/2018 Ma le So c ia liza tio n: Pa tria rc hy a nd Oppre ssio n  Ge nde r so c ia liza tio n a nd pa tria rc ha l no rms e mpha size ra pe c ulture , ine q ua lity, sha ming & o b je c tific a tio n o f wo me n.  Pe o ple o f a ll g e nde rs inte rna lize “the rule s” a nd a c t the m o ut. 7

6/6/2018 T he F ilm T he E mpa thy Ga p: Ma sc ulinity a nd the Coura g e to Cha ng e Re a c tio ns to the F ilm?  Wha t struc k yo u a b o ut the film?  Ho w do e s g e nde r so c ia liza tio n impa c t yo ung b o ys e xpe rie nc e s?  Wha t a re the psyc ho lo g ic a l implic a tio ns?  Wha t a re stra te g ie s to e mpo we r b o ys a nd me n?  Wha t a re the implic a tio ns fo r wo rking with b o ys a nd me n in c o unse ling ?  Wha t a re the implic a tio ns fo r inte rve ning o n syste mic le ve ls? Creating An Action Plan to Work with Boys and Men  What do you need to do to foster empathy in boys and men? You Institutional Affiliations Stop Doing Start Doing Do Differently www.e rvinc o unse ling .c o m 8