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1/8/2019 WTBSA � Words THEY MARVELLED AT THE GRACIOUS WORDS THAT CAME OUT OF HIS MOUTH LK 4:22 Purpose Tools to Communicate � Maintain Order � Insight to Character � Convey Wisdom � Impart Knowledge � 1

1/8/2019 Power – Positive or Negative Eph 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, � Corrupting, foul, abusive language But only what is helpful for building others up, � Edification, encouraging, support, strengthen According to their needs, � Their needs…not your needs That it may benefit those who listen � Be better off after hearing Deconstructive vs. Constructive Is this all you have to show after all that time? It looks � brutal and full of errors. You are so stupid. � How does that make you feel? Well done! You put a lot of time and effort into this. � From a quick glance it looks like a good first draft. Let’s plan a time to go through it together. � Different feels from this one? Prov 25:11 – A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold � in settings of silver Weakness What you say…30% � How you say it…70% � More = Better? � Words then Action � Context can impact � meaning 2

1/8/2019 Integrity MATT 5:37 – LET YOUR “YES” BE “YES” AND YOUR “NO” BE “NO” Misconceptions � Speaking your mind is not a hall pass to be unkind � Just because it is true…does not mean it should be said Responsible to Control • Idle Words • Matt 12:36 – But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account • Filthy Words • Eph 5:4 Neither filthiness, foolish talking or coarse joking, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks • Miss Spoken Words • Prov 21:23 – Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity • Gossip • Prov 26:20 – Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down • The Lips • Ps 141:3 – Set a guard over my mouth, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips • The Tongue • Prov 15:4 - The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit • The Mouth Prov 21:23 – Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity • 3

1/8/2019 Practical Points BE CONCISE BE SPECIFIC USE FAMILIAR KNOW YOUR LANGUAGE AUDIENCE Taneil – be brief, be bright, be gone (fears being taken advantage of) Logan – optimistic and expressive Two Ways (fears disapproval and social rejection) “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” Saida – gentle and tactful Steven Covey (fears loss of stability and harmony) Wes – every detail included and considered (fears being wrong or criticized) Gracious Words Voice as Words of Many Waters Authority Voice of the Words of Shepherd Kindness Word’s in Red Words of Words of Correction Love Words of Words of Care Eternal Life 4