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Linda Carpenter ‐ Building Relationships 11/19/2014 Thank You for Relationships of Mutual your Partnership Respect Thank you for working with our students. Linda L. Carpenter M.Ed. Cardinal Stritch University Milwaukee Lutheran High School November 20, 2014 Partner Card Find 4 Partners  You have 30 seconds to copy this onto your index You have 4 minutes to ask 4 people to be your card. conversation partners for our session.  If I am your breakfast partner, you are also my breakfast partner.  Remember to say good morning.  Look colleagues in the eye.  Use Please and Thank You.  Shake hands or fist bump. Meet Linda Get to Know  I grew up on a farm.  Find your Breakfast Partner.  I was a high school social studies teacher.  Tell them three things they don’t know about you.  I have lived in 5 different states.  Remember to say, “Thank you.”  I have a wonderful husband and son.  Shake hands.  I can bake. Cardinal Stritch University 1

Linda Carpenter ‐ Building Relationships 11/19/2014 Share Why take the time?  What was the most surprising thing you learned?  We have less than 50 minutes together. Why did we do this activity? “The nature of relationships among No significant learning the adults within a school has a occurs without a significant greater influence on the character relationship of mutual and quality of that school and on student accomplishment than respect. anything else” (Barth, 2006). ~Dr. James Comer Every Kid Needs a Champion The Research Influences that Rank High on Student Learning: Teacher ‐ student relationships has an effect size of 0.72 and was ranked 12 out of 155 influences on learning (Hattie, 2012). Anything over 0.40 is considered very high probability that it positively influences student learning (Hattie, 2012). “The manner used by the teacher to treat and interact with students, to respect them as learners and people, and to demonstrate care and commitment for them also needs to be transparent to students” (Hattie, 2012, p. 26). http://www.pbs.org/wnet/ted ‐ talks ‐ education/speaker/rita ‐ pierson/ Cardinal Stritch University 2

Linda Carpenter ‐ Building Relationships 11/19/2014 Think of Your Favorite Teacher  Take a few seconds and think of your favorite In a meta ‐ analysis of more than 100 studies (Marzano, 2003b), we found that the quality of teacher ‐ student teacher. relationships is the keystone for all other aspects of  Jot a few ideas on your note taking handout. classroom management . In fact, our meta ‐ analysis indicates that on average, teachers who had high ‐ quality relationships with their students had 31 percent fewer discipline problems, rule violations, and related problems over a year's time than did teachers who did not have high ‐ quality relationships with their students. (Marzano, 2003) Reflection Find Your Lunch Partner ‐ Share What do you do to intentionally build trust?  Do you do those things your favorite teacher did?  Find your lunch partner and share examples of your  Take a minute to think of the things you did the first favorite teacher and what they did that made you like them. days of school,  Share what are you doing.  And things you do every day,  To build relationships with your students.  Write a short reflection. Build Trust  We’re the adults. It’s our job to teach and model “I have come to a frightening conclusion. I am the decisive element in the classroom. It is my personal approach that will social ‐ emotional skills. create the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the  Many of our students don’t have those social skills. weather. As a teacher I possess tremendous power to make a student’s life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture  You can’t teach to their brain, until you connect to or an instrument of inspiration. I can humiliate or humor, hurt their heart. or heal. In all situations it is my response that decides whether a crisis will be escalated or de ‐ escalated, and a student humanized or de ‐ humanized. “ Dr. Haim Ginott Cardinal Stritch University 3

Linda Carpenter ‐ Building Relationships 11/19/2014 Challenges Challenges  Students don’t trust you. They have been let down  Parents don’t trust you. They have been let down by: too many times by:  The system  The system  Former teachers  Adults in their lives  Their family  Their teachers  Significant adults in their lives  You have to prove you deserve their trust and that  You have to prove you are trustworthy! you care for their child. Challenges The Management Connection  TIME: You Don’t Have Time to …….  Students don’t work for teachers they don’t like or respect.  Parents don’t work with teachers they don’t like or  You Don’t Have Time not to….. respect.  The time spent on building relationships results in more time for instruction in the long run. What can we do… Get to Know Your Students  Get to know their names beginning on the first day. Cardinal Stritch University 4

Linda Carpenter ‐ Building Relationships 11/19/2014 Get to Know Students and Caregivers  Know who the caregivers are and get to know them. The relationships you foster with your students and  Find out what the home situation is. their parents are extremely important. Children  Does your student work or have responsibility after school?  Is your student with parents, grandparents, foster ‐ care, homeless? appreciate teachers who treat them like human beings.  Call home. Parents appreciate a teacher who cares enough to  Early include them in their child's education.  Often  Positive Working with Students and Parents , 2006, LDOnline:http://www.ldonline.org/article/10511/  (The Power of the Positive Phone Call Home http://www.edutopia.org/blog/power ‐ positive ‐ phone ‐ call ‐ home ‐ elena ‐ aguilar )  Be respectful when you make the difficult calls.  Build a partnership. Get to Know Students Get to Know Interests  Use Interest Inventories  You have five minutes to talk to colleagues and fill as  Use activities to find out about sports, books, many blanks as possible on your sheet.  You must stand up and move around. hobbies, what else?  Go to students events. (Games, Meets, Concerts, ?)  You must use please and thank you.  Get to know activities.  Begin.  Let’s try some now.  (Handouts posted online.) Find your Snack Partner Meet Students at the Door Each Day  Talk about how you could use this in your classroom today.  How would it benefit you and your students?  All are handouts/resources are posted online. Cardinal Stritch University 5

Linda Carpenter ‐ Building Relationships 11/19/2014 How? Build a Caring Classroom Community Be Visible  Begin each class with a personal  Be ready for each class and greet students at the greeting. door.  Have something on the board to  Make a personal connection: sports, family, interests.. start the class each day.  Convince student you really are interested.  Try texting….  Be sincere.  http://ifaketext.com/index.php Classroom Community Build a Caring Classroom Community  Give opportunities for students to know each other and “In saying that a classroom or a school is a ‘community,’ connect….all year long. then, I mean that it is a place in which students feel  Take time at least one day a week to share something personal. cared about and encouraged to care about each other.  Connect to real life to your lesson. They experience a sense of being valued and respected;  Play a game. the children matter to one another and to the teacher.”  Use a beach ball to do a whip:  One thing you don’t know about me (Kohn, 2006, p. 101)  When I grow up I want to  One interesting thing you did over the weekend  Two truths and a Lie Get to Know Get to Know Each Other Bio Poem  Me in Numbers Linda First Name  Me in a Bag Son/Daughter of Daughter of Lucy and Jr.  My Timeline Who needs . . Who needs laughter Who loves . . Who sees opportunities everywhere Who sees . . Who hates injustice Who hates . . Who fears snakes Who fears . . Who dreams of chocolate Who dreams of . . Resident of the world Resident of (fact or fiction) Cardinal Stritch University 6