1/13/2020 Bringing Up Great Kids (BUGK) Facilitating respectful, - PDF document

1/13/2020 Bringing Up Great Kids (BUGK) Facilitating respectful, reflective & effective parenting groups www.bringingupgreatkids.org The Australian Childhood Foundation acknowledges Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people as the traditional custodians of this land and we pay our respect to their Elders past, present and future. SMART childhood.org.au Strategies for Managing Abuse Related Trauma BUGK: The story so far BUGK (birth to 10yrs rs) 2011 (updated 2019) BUGK in Aborig rigin inal l BUGK in the First 1000 days Kinship ip Care re BUGK BUGK for BUGK / FV Adole lescents www.bringingupgreatkids.org 1

1/13/2020 Resources Online store: • Remote controls • I Need You Baby Booklet • Reflective Parenting Cards • Behaviour Buster cards Bringingupgrea eatki kids.o s.org • Thoughtful Parenting manual & videos • Mindful Parenting • Connected Parenting www.bringingupgreatkids.org Online Platform Childhood.org.au Professional tab Online store Prosody Bringingupgreatkids.org LinkedIn www.bringingupgreatkids.org The Primary Aim of BUGK To increase reflective capacity in parents www.bringingupgreatkids.org 2

1/13/2020 Table of Contents • CHAPT PTER 1: The e Messag sage Centre • CHAPT PTER 2: Messag sages es from the e Past • CHAPT PTER 3: Giving & Rece ceiving Messag sages es • CHAPT PTER 4: The e Messag sages of Beh ehav aviour • CHAPTER 5: Messa sages s about Me • CHAPT PTER 6: Pass ssing on Messag sages es www.bringingupgreatkids.org Rationale • Why yet another er paren enting program? • Why the focus s on reflec flection? • Why the focu cus s on relat ationshi ship? • Why self-care & support? • Why narrat ative? ve? • Why mindfu fulness? ess? www.bringingupgreatkids.org Mindfulness for Parents www.bringingupgreatkids.org 3

1/13/2020 Stop....Pause....Play www.bringingupgreatkids.org Deep Listening ‘To listen in reciprocal relationships with h no judg dgment nt, just to try to understand’ (JUDY ATKINSON 2017, the Value of Deep Listening-The Aboriginal Gift to the Nation) www.bringingupgreatkids.org Storytime The reading of children’s stories to parents, re- engages parents with their childhood experiences of having stories read or told to them and the inherent “messages” within them. www.bringingupgreatkids.org Pic from: www.phoenixpubliclibrary.org/kids 4

1/13/2020 Parent Journal: My Story as a Parent A power werful ful pred edictor of secur cure e attac achm hmen ent in children, en, is cohe herent self-na narrative ve in parent nts. s. www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter contents Outline • Key Messa Part 2 • Core Activities ssages • Pre-sess s & Options session Faci cilitat ator Refl flect ction • Prepar arat ation/set set-up/reso esource ces Part 3 • Self-Car Part 1 • Welco are • Reflective Journaling come/ e/rec econnect ct • STOP….PAUSE….PLAY • Storytime • Mindfu • Summar ful List sten ening ary www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 1 The Message Centre www.bringingupgreatkids.org 5

1/13/2020 Chapter 1: The Message Centre Key Messages • There is no perfect recipe for bringing up children • There is no such thing as the perfect parent • Parents’ relationships with their children are critical to children’s healthy brain development www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 1: The Message Centre Facilitator Reflection How do you think you/your parents may have parented differently had you/they known more about early brain development? www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 1: The Message Centre The Parent Brain ABC KIDS www.bringingupgreatkids.org 6

1/13/2020 Chapter 1: The Message Centre The Parent Brain ABC KIDS www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 1: The Message Centre Growing Brains www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 1: The Message Centre Neuronal Connections www.bringingupgreatkids.org 7

1/13/2020 Chapter 1: The Message Centre The brain story www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 1: The Message Centre Bottom up brain development www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 1: The Message Centre Hand model of the brain www.bringingupgreatkids.org 8

1/13/2020 Chapter 1: The Message Centre Mindfulness www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 1: The Message Centre Where trauma affects the brain Consolidates memory by providing the context/ sequential data for episodic memories. Goes offline if trauma overwhelms and disrupts cortex. Survival response centre within the limbic lobe that becomes Bridge between the 2 enlarged and more sensitive the hemispheres. Chronic stress more it is activated through can damage and thin down this responding to threats bundle of neurons www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 1: The Message Centre The traumatised brain www.bringingupgreatkids.org 9

1/13/2020 Chapter 1: The Message Centre Lateral Brain Development www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 1: The Message Centre Lateral Brain Development www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 1: The Message Centre Waddley Archer Waddley Archer, Waddley Archer Doodley-doo, Doodley-doo Waddley Archer, Waddley Archer Doodley-doo oo, Doodley-doo oo It’s just a simple song and there’s nothing g to it All you have to do is dood odley-do o it. I like the rest but the part I like best t Doodley-doo, Doodley-doo – YEAH!! www.bringingupgreatkids.org 10

1/13/2020 Chapter 1: The Message Centre Self-care www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 1: The Message Centre How will you adapt the content of this chapter into your work with parents? Are there any special considerations you need to take into account? www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 2 Messages from the Past www.bringingupgreatkids.org 11

1/13/2020 Chapter 2: Messages from the Past Key Messages • Messages we received in childhood from our parents/caregivers, impact on our own parenting • Building relationships with our children is essential. • Self-care for parents is vital. www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 2: Messages from the Past Facilitator Reflection What are some of the messages - both spoken and implied, that you received from your parents? www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 2: Messages from the Past Why messages? Parents are invited to reflect on: • the way messages from their past might be impacting on their parenting • the messages they would like to pass on to their children www.bringingupgreatkids.org 12

1/13/2020 Chapter 2: Messages from the Past Parenting rainbow What are some of the influences that have shaped the way that you parent? www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 2: Messages from the Past Values and goals & Goals Values www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 4 Pass the Parcel www.bringingupgreatkids.org 13

1/13/2020 Chapter 2: Messages from the Past Activity: Rubbish, Recycle, Reframe www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 2: Messages from the Past Self-care www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 2: Messages from the Past How will you adapt the content of this chapter into your work with parents? Are there any special considerations you need to take into account? www.bringingupgreatkids.org 14

1/13/2020 Chapter 3 Giving & Receiving Messages www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 3: Giving & Receiving Messages Key Messages • Non-verbal messages are very powerful in our communication with children • Being in a calm state is crucial to effective communication www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 3: Giving & Receiving Messages Facilitator Reflection Think about your own childhood memories of communication in your family . www.bringingupgreatkids.org 15

1/13/2020 Chapter 3: Giving & Receiving Messages Birthday line Crosscards.com www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 3: Giving & Receiving Messages Deep Listening www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chinese Symbol for Listening: ‘Listen as if you are listening to a king’ www.bringingupgreatkids.org 16

1/13/2020 Chapter 3: Giving & Receiving Messages Listening to young children Listening to my BIG feelings SAD ANGRY FRUSTRATED JOYFUL EXCITED HAPPY FRIGHTENED www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 3: Giving & Receiving Messages Self-care www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 3: Giving & Receiving Messages How will you adapt the content of this chapter into your work with parents? Are there any special considerations you need to take into account? www.bringingupgreatkids.org 17

1/13/2020 Chapter 4 The Messages of Behaviour www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 4: The Messages of Behaviour Key Messages • All behaviour has meaning • Behaviour is an expression of our feelings and needs • To be calm when responding to children www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 4: The Messages of Behaviour Facilitator Reflection Think about your parents’ typical responses to you as a child when you were in a highly emotional state. www.bringingupgreatkids.org 18

1/13/2020 Chapter 4: The Messages of Behaviour Children’s behaviour www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 4: The Messages of Behaviour Background music www.bringingupgreatkids.org Chapter 6 Iceberg/Anthill www.bringingupgreatkids.org 19