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6/20/2016 Circle of Security-Parenting: Keeping the Parent-Child Relationship in Mind Presented by: Jody Angel-Trejo, Stephanni Renn, Jen Gerdes, & Katie Wright Nebraska Young Child Institute--Kearney , NE We each have within us the “irresistible desire to What is Attachment? be irresistibly desired.” --Robert Frost Pick ME , Choose ME , Love The Ultimate ME Desire of Every Child https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=st2jamNWcJM 1

6/20/2016 • Through the relationship with parents and others, infants and toddlers learn what to expect of others. • Nurturing, stable and consistent environments are essential to a young child’s mental health and neural The development. Parent- Child Relationship • The state of the adults’ emotional well being profoundly impacts the quality of the relationship We can handle struggle, as long as we have access to secure We are attachment and Hardwired for connection. Relationship https://m.youtube.com/wat ch?v=vw0TkwjjpZU • Based on attachment theory • Relationships are central Circle of Security- • Understanding the child’s needs Parenting • Understanding our own disruptions • “Being With” each other, ourselves, and our children 2

6/20/2016 Promoting Healthy Attachment: A Tour of the Circle The Circle of Security™ -- We require connection. --When it is ruptured, it needs to be repaired. --When it is, on a consistent basis, we feel secure. -- When it’s not, we feel insecure and disorganized. Chapter 1: Welcome to Circle of Security-Parenting Chapter 2: Exploring Our Children’s Needs All the Understanding Your Way Around the Circle Child’s Needs for Chapter 3: “Being With” On the Circle Secure Attachment What Do Chapter 4: “Being With” Infants On the Circle Participants Learn? Chapter 5: The Path to Security Chapter 6: Exploring Our Struggles Understanding Your Own Struggles that Chapter 7: Rupture & Repair in Relationships Get in the Way Chapter 8: Summary & Celebration 3

6/20/2016 • Strategies to strengthen the parent-child relationship • How to be present with children during the best and toughest of times • Understand how procedural memory impacts their parenting What Do • How to recognize a child’s needs and make sense of Participants his or her behaviors Learn? • How to meet the child’s needs by being bigger, stronger, wiser and kind "Being-With" and Shark Music  A reflective model, not a prescriptive model  An opportunity for the participant to reflect on his/her own childhood experiences and how they impact his/her parenting behaviors What COS-P is and What it Isn’t  An opportunity to experience “Being With”  Based on a model of “good enough” parenting you are imperfect and wired for struggle but you are worthy of love and belonging….. 4

6/20/2016 Example from COS-P DVD What are the outcomes? Resources & http://necosp.org More Information 5

6/20/2016 “Every child on this planet needs to have one simple reality confirmed: I matter and I matter absolutely to someone” --Kent Hoffman 6

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PA R E N T I N G PA R E N T I N G FIND OUT MORE! Contact your local Circle of Security Registered Parent Educator to learn more about Circle of Security™-Parenting classes in your area. To find a COS-P Facilitator or a schedule of upcoming classes please visit www.necosp.org. State Contact: Jen Gerdes Nebraska Children & Families Foundation jgerdes@nebraskachildren.org 402-476-7661 The world’s best job is also the hardest. Join parents just like you who want to learn a simple way to strengthen their parent-child relationship. Materials developed by Nebraska Children and Families Foundation. NebraskaChildren.org

PA R E N T I N G All parents wish children came with instructions. It often feels like we’re just making it up as we go along, never sure if we’re getting it right. Building stronger relationships for your child’s long-term success Circle of Security™-Parenting is an 8-week parenting program based on years of research about how to build a strong relationship with your children. It is designed to help you learn how to respond to your child’s needs in a way that enhances your connection with him, which often leads to changes in the child’s behavior. Circle of Security™-Parenting helps parents give their children a feeling of security and confjdence so they can explore, learn, grow and build positive relationships; all essential skills for life-long success. Be bigger, stronger, wiser and kind Through the Circle of Security™-Parenting program, you’ll start to see that your child’s need for attention is actually a need for connection with you. You’ll learn how to be bigger, stronger, wiser and kind so you can both set limits and still take the time to understand your child’s emotional world. The results? Parents who complete the class say they have happier, more positive relationships with their children and their children are more understanding of other’s emotions and have stronger self-esteem. You’re not alone. We’ve all felt that way. When your child’s behavior has you confused and frustrated, it’s not uncommon “I would tell all parents who would have the opportunity to to wonder what’s wrong with him…or what’s wrong with you. We fjnd experience this training to take this, embrace this, practice it, ourselves asking, “Why would she behave this way?”, “Is there something wrong live by it, and not only your children will benefjt but you will with him?” or “Why doesn’t she like me?” come away feeling empowered as a parent.”