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Goal Setting 2020 AMSTERDAM | 28.01.2020

Goals Why do we need them?

We need goals to have a sense where we are going.

I don’t have goals! Things that you could DO, BE or HAVE? or things you don’t want anymore.

“Do the small things. And you will do more. And eventually you start to get the glimpse of a vision of the things you possibly could do.”

Making it SMART

Pitfalls in goal setting Emotional attachment, pressure. ● What’s next? Hamster-wheel mentality ● Too much focus on the outcome ● Cheat or act selfish ● No learning ● Creativity crush ● One direction ● They involve change. ●

Goals theory 1. Reward based and making ‘other’ people work harder. [Conscious goals affect action] 2. Based on learning and becoming your best self. [Subconscious motivators] It’s about motivation. ‘The goal-performance relationship is strongest when people are committed to their goals’

Intrinsic motivation Extrinsic motivation

Intrinsic goals Autonomy, mastery, purpose, passion, curiosity, community feeling, love, fun, learning, belonging, self-knowledge,...

Money, levels, points, discipline, title, appraisal, competition, fear of punishment, approval, attractiveness, fear of failure, FOMO, popularity, Extrinsic goals conformity...

Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us. Autonomy, Other theories: Control, competence, contribute Mastery, Mastery, belonging, autonomy Competence, relatedness, autonomy and Purpose. (STD: Self-determination Theory)

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Your Personal Goals Framework of Intrinsic Motivators

“Goals aren’t things that you feel you “should” do. It’s about the thing you “want” to do. The key is to understand the difference.”

Wheel of Life Areas of life that are important to you

Financial Job/career Physical health Relationships Personal development Community Movement / change in life and balance | The Wheel of Life

Wheel of Life 1. Think briefly what a How satisfied are you currently satisfying life might look with each category in your life? like for you in each area. Draw a line across each 3. Rank your level of 2. segment that represents satisfaction with each area of your satisfaction score for your current life by drawing a each area. line across each segment. The new perimeter of the circle represents your Wheel of Life. Is it a bumpy ride?

Reflect...

What’s really important to you? Your core values drive your Values behaviour. An alignment between your life Why do you do and your core values produces what you do? satisfaction, a sense of happiness and fulfillment. Values aren’t selected; we discover and they reveal them.

Discover your values What drives and motivates you? (money, fame, ● interesting projects, friends, travelling, creativity…?) What are the things you are really good at? How does ● that help or add value to others? What 3 experiences made you glad, sad or even mad? ● ( What values were you honoring or suppressing?) What activities, experiences, and people cause you to feel ● deeply engaged and connected? Identify the times when you were most fulfilled and ● satisfied. How and why did the experience give your life meaning?

Extensive list on mindbrouwerij.nl/futurefemales

What does this value mean to you?

Values + Verb Freedom Live in freedom. Making a difference Seek opportunities for making a difference. Mindfulness Act with mindfulness. Well-being Promote well-being. Happiness Multiply happiness. Inspiration Share inspiration. Calmness Embrace calmness. Independance Cultivate independance.

Flipside of your value

Value Order of Flipside Avoid flip or importance approach value? 1 2 3 “Knowing what you value AND what you actively want to avoid can help you create an even clearer picture of how your goals might align with your values.” TURN THE THINGS YOU DON’T WANT (AVOID) INTO THING YOU DO WANT.

Goals = change = behaviour

Which behaviour do you need to cultivate to reach your goal? Tie it to a habit.

What do we have now? The areas in life that are important to you. ● The areas in life that require your attention in order to ● gain balance. Your values (and their flipside) ● Goals ● Actions to take. ●

Write down your goal

Your goal Why do you want this Goal? What does it give you? Why do you want this Goal? What does it give you? Why do you want this Goal? What does it give you? Why do you want this Goal? What does it give you? What will this goal help you feel?

Limiting beliefs

Limiting beliefs Be aware of your limiting beliefs. Write them (all) down. They are in general a judgement about yourself not about your goal. They can be a driving force behind major extrinsic goals. Stay in the present, not the past. Two layers: “I’m not good enough”. “I’m stupid that I think like that”.

”Flexibility comes from having multiple choices. Wisdom comes from having multiple perspectives”

How do I think about myself? Who/ what else do I serve by reaching this goal? who & what else Which goal or dream does it fulfill? Which obstacles did I face? Which belief helped me along the way? What did I learn during the process? how & why What does this goal mean to me? What do I do when I reached my goal? How do I behave? How do I feel? what & where How do others behave in this environment? Imagine you have reached your goal….

Logical Levels

And?

REMEMBER: “GOALS are there to INSPIRE YOU not to beat yourself up with.”

Doing it SMART Specific (simple, sensible, significant). ● Measurable (meaningful, motivating). ● Achievable (agreed, attainable). ● Relevant (reasonable, realistic and resourced, ● results-based). Time bound (time-based, time limited, time/cost ● limited, timely, time-sensitive)

Takeaways Are your goals intrinsic or extrinsic? ● Focus on what you really want. ● Aligning your goals with your values will: ● Give you more satisfaction and drive. ○ Provide a deep sense of direction. ○ Improve your communication. ○ “More motivated and driven people, less ● burn-outs and anxiety.”

Develop Plans to Achieve Your Goals.

Thank you!

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